Changes.....necessary or important?

the world is changing and no one can deny that.... and life has to change as well. we can't live a life we lived 10 years ago or there's no survival in this world. but for some, changes are something bad. very bad. for some, changes mean losing the original. well, it makes sense but it's not true.

i was brought up in a small town. our mentalities there are not like the big town people. to be short, big town people are more outspoken, broad minded and happy go lucky. but in my place, we dun critisize that openly. something like that. we prefer to stay at home at night. well, to be honest, after eleven, my place is a dead town. nothing except the 24 hours 'nasi kandar' stalls. so we don't go out during night. that's our way of living. that was how i lived my life before moving to KL for my A-levels.

Well, in KL, i changed a lot. I couldn't say to KL people that going out at night is wrong. they would kill me if i say 10pm is kind of late. To not be isolated, to not be conservative, i tried to adapt myself with that kind of life. i adapted quite well and i din have any culture shock. My brother was there to help. There was where i realize we need changes to improve in our lives.

I came to Singapore two years ago. Singapore is a well developed country and people here are more sporting as in they let people to voice their opinions. some of the opinions might not be that positive but it depends on us whether we wanna accept it or not. if we feel that what they say is true, then we follow. if not, we argue or just follow our own way. right? but there's no point to fight over n over again about something which is not gonna do any good to anyone. no point. for an example, what's the use of complaining bout NUS system where no one can come up with a better one. just follow or start planning. y do we wanna catch attention by doing something stupid! no offense but there are people like this.

we need changes to improve. changes are not always for improvement. but it depends on us totally. if we wanna improve, we need to change. and if one were to lose his 'originality', then guess there will be new original of himself. lemme stress. this is not a rapid change or chnages which don't stay long. changes, necessary or important? i think it's both!

"girls will be 'nice' only in front of the guys they are interested in"

how true is that statement??? some of us will feel that its rubbish.... but trust me, i did not make it up! it was actually said by girls! i have no idea what were they thinking when they said it out but for me, they are actually insulting the guy friends around them. haiyo. these people..... will not change even if Mahatma Gandhi is re-born. 'girls will be nice in front of guys they like or interested in': this statement is fine but to add only before nice, i think its ridiculous. y do girls need to act differently in front of people. if u dun like someone, just say it and stay away. that's much better than being with the person and insulting him in front of others.

for girls who think the statement is flawless, i'm quite sad for u. i have no idea when u will be 'nice', if u know what i mean. i dunno what made the girls think that guys will entertain such girls. if they do, then they are after something else. i take it as an insult for all the guys. if guys can be themselves in public, whenever n wherever, y can't girls do the same. okay, i might not understand the girls' hormones that well, but u know, thats not the way to treat guys or anyone. u'll treat a guy very nicely only if u like or interested in him and when u dun need nor like him anymore, u'll treat him like s**t.

i tell u what, this is what guys do. when a guy doesn't like a girl, he will say that he doesn't like her and when she needs help, he will try his best to help. this is what most of the guys do. some of the girls, when they need help, they'll be the nicest things on earth but when they don't need any, guys are like kryptonites to them. and i'm talking about those some of girls!! i know a lot of girls. most of them are very nice and appreciate their friends. but i dunno what really happened to this group of girls. as far as i concern, a girl will be interested in a guy only after she spends sometime together with the guy. during this period, you have to be yourself and show your partner whether u r nice or not in his eyes. not wait till u have feelings on him and then trying to be nice. by that time, if the guy has pride, he would have dumped u for another girl!!!

i think we need to change the statement. "girls will be nice too in front of the guys they are interested in". that sounds better but i dunno how many will follow......

be broad minded and stay positive......

well, i've been telling everyone to think and act positively. however, i just realized that for the past few weeks, i was not positive at all. I was being pissed for small matters and let the emotion to take over me. i was complaining for everything. i was sad, depressed, frustrated and angry. i have no idea how could i be like that. i'm the guy who will try my very best not to show my problems but i guess i was affected emotionally. i was very negative.

two nights before, i was chatting with my friend. well, i told her everything that i was going through. i did not feel stupid nor embarassed to share those stuffs with her coz i've been sharing a lot of things with her since the first year. we chatted for hours. she was listening to my problems. then, she told me to be positive. she reminded me what i used to say. be positive, clam and be cool. everything is meant to be. and we must be positive and try to accept it. look at the bright side of the world. she made me understood that being positive during hard times is difficult but not impossible. thank you.

only then i realized that there was no point for me to be down. i'm in a position where no matter what happens, i 'win'. i came to know that thinking negatively for that matter would only affect me emotionally. it would never help me to overcome my feelings. yes. its true. we have to be positive.

after that, i was back to normal. now, i'm happy even though my 'problem' is not yet solved. i know, it will get solved by itself and i will accept it. hey, friend! thank you very much for your advice. u have been always there whenever i needed advice. now, i'm happy with the life i'm living and with the people around me. really happy and no regrets. look at the bright side of the world...

Stress.... feeling stresss even to handle it?

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Now, lets put love topic aside first. i'll come back to it when necessary. the topic which runs in my mind now is STRESS! Lets define stress. according to www.onelook.com, the quick definition of stress is difficulty that causes worry or emotional tension. well, we are gonna talk about this stress and not anything else.

i realize people tend to get stressed up easily. traffic jam, stress. long queue, stress. no small change, stress. lab work, stress. there are a lot more stuffs which can make one stressed up.

people use to relate busyness with stress. if the person is busy, somehow, he/she will be stressed trying to finish his/her assignment. well, actually, busyness is not directly proportional to stress. one can be very busy but by being very organized, he/she can accomplish whatever he/she wanted to accomplish at the end of the day. we dun have to go far. lets take the Prime Minister of Singapore, Lee Hsein Loong, as an example. If he's stressed up everyday, most probably more Singaporeans would migrate to other countries and the general election would be very much earlier than expected. He is stressed, i'm not saying he isn't. He is. But the way he handles it makes him the top man in Singapore. that's how we should be.

some people just can't handle stress. They can be one sweet person but when they are stressed up, even devil will lose to them, if u know what i mean. i came across a person who even said, "Why should i care about others when i myself am stressed!" and the other one who doesn't wanna be with friends when the person is stressed. These are just simple examples which i did come across. y r people handling stress in this manner. everyone will experience stress one day. worse still if everyday. we should talk to our friends or someone to let go our stress. We must not let stress to take over us! We should control stress rather than stress controlling us.

if we cannot handle stress, we can never live the way we want in this world. be calm and when stressed, lets find ways to overcome it, not to keep thinking about it. if we can't, talk to others. others might have gone thru the same thing some years before. haha. and work smart to overcome our stress. Do one thing at any one time. settle it before going to the next matter rather than jumping here n there and messing up things. sometimes, meditation does help. be calm, control yourselves and you can achieve more than you expect!

Love at the first sight.....

well, if you fall in love after seeing her for the first time, i can understand. coz guess what. i'm still in love with her. haha. Admiring is love but love is not only admiring. I admire her a lot. In fact for the past 10 years, i have been admiring her and for me, she's getting more n more beautiful everyday. Even though she's married with kids now, her beauty is still there. haha. i really love her.

So, is this love called a true love??? I would say its love at the first sight. but i dun believe love at the first sight. y? simple. coz, u r only looking the outer beauty and admiring it. thats all. not loving. u might have crush on the person but definitely not love. The first impression might bring u closer to the person and after knowing the person well, only then u'll know whether u r in love or not. u need to know a person before falling in love with the person. but if u fall in love with the person before knowing the person, better be lucky or i'll be waiting with packs of tissues. haha :P

the beauty is there to be admired. yes, we shud admire beauty. in fact, everyday, wake up, see the mirror and say, u r hot!!! admire beauty. but this is not the only thing we need to love a person. understanding is very important as well. then, life would be more interesting with ur loved ones. what if one day u wake up and find out that u r bored with the person lying beside u? what if one day u feel u no longer have the same feelings with the person u loved? what if....... love the inner beauty. that love will ever remain!!

Love..... different kinds of it!!!

well, when a guy loves a girl, it doesn't always mean that the guy wants to marry the girl and wants to have a happy family with her. This is where the word love is misunderstood. When a girl is close to a guy, i mean only close as a friend, they are friends. they love each other as friends. this feelings can later develop into the 'love' we all understand. It can develop but doesn't mean that it will. last time, in my community, if a girl talks to a guy, she is not a good girl. well, even nowadays, there are people still having the mentality. come on, we r now in 21st century and heading towards globalization. we meet a lot of people everyday. so i think that mentality should be changed. if you know people with that mentality, please ask them to change it.

brothers love to their sisters. i have a blood-sister. and i love her a lot. and i do have non-blood-related sisters. many of them. trust me. many of them. whenever i go back home, these sisters will come and visit me. they love me very much. and i love them even more. is this love called the love where i wanna have family with them. it's rubbish. i love them as my sisters and i will always love them as my sisters. my love to them will ever remain n it will never, i repeat, never develop to other kind of love, if u know what i mean. if you love ur sisters, you'll understand my feelings.

mother's love to the son. i love my mum more than my life. and i know everyone does too. for the past 22 valentine's day, she has been my valentine. haha. if there's a person waiting for us back at home with broad arms full of love, that's our mum. no one can love us like our mum. wife comes next. haha. i'll tell more about mums later. haha.

there are more different kinds of love. please be broad minded. love is subjective, i agree. but there are thin lines differentiating all kinds of love. to love and to be loved, one must be very lucky. i'm lucky as a brother, friend and son. well, not yet as a boy friend or a father. haha. and i'm not desperate for it. i'm very happy with the love i'm living in with. fill this world with love.
Mother Theresa once said, "We cannot do great things, we can only do small things with great love!" the statement has thousand meanings in it. love your passion and the people around you.
if you dun feel any feelings inside you, dun give up! there might be someone who loves you for who you are! so no worries!!!

Love is Subjective..... Feel It to Understand It!!!

Love.... not everyone understands it! not everyone can describe the feelings associated with it! and not everyone will get the chance to feel it! Actually, as far as i concern, liking a person is not the only thing required to love the person. for an instance, if a person can't stand to meet another person, he/she might be having a crush on her/him. If the person fancies her/him coz of her/his outlook, the person admires her/him. if a person keeps on thinking about her/him, most probably the person is worried bout her/him. That's all. however, if a person is happy because she/he is happy, make her/him the happiest person in the world and understands her/him 100%, then the person is in love with her/him. Never fall in love with a person who you don't know her/him 100% coz your love will not prolong!! love is a lifetime commitment. it's not a 'masak masak' game!

love never fails. actually, one of the lovers fails. love is always there. it depends on us whether to feel it or not. if we are unable to share the feeling, then we fail as a lover. and when your partner says, "I'm sorry. I don't think our relationship will work out! Lets break up!", respect the decision. It'll be very hard, not impossible, to make your partner to love you back. But it's better to leave your partner go. Good for your partner and on top of that good for you too. when someone doesn't appreciate you or your relationship, then the person doesn't worth your time or love. trust me, if you are good, you'll get a better one. Just don't be like movies villain trying to 'destroy' your partner. by commiting that mistake, you are making your partner so great and you are 'down-grading' yourself. so dun. just hope that your partner will be happy wherever she/he is. that shows how great your love is! and dun be sad over it. Overcome it! remember, no one worth your tears, and the one who is will never make you cry!

now, how would you react if you are being loved? actually, that's the best possible feeling one can get. to be loved! never over react! dun boast around. and please give the person a chance. if the person is not your kind, make him/her to understand it. he/she will respect you more. try not to hurt anyone's feelings coz you'll never want to be in their shoes. at least, respect them for loving you coz they saw something in you which others didn't.

when both of you are in love with each other, then you can see the paradise in front of your eyes. Treasure the relationship and you can live happily ever after just like any other fairy tales. it doesn't take a prince and a princess to be in a fairy tale. create your own and when your children want to talk about a great fairy tale, they'll talk about both of you. Love needs two to share. make sure you understand your partner and vice versa. and god bless you!!! hope we can find someone to love and someone to love us and hope our love is forever......

Interesting trip to jb....

well, lemme make it clear first. JB might not be the interesting place to go. yes i agree. but if u go with the right kind of people, then, jb is an interesting place to go. I went to jb yesterday just to catch a movie. a tamil movie. Dan supposed to follow us but at last he went to watch an english movie with aman. nvm. 5 of us went to watch the movie. The movie was superb. no dancing around the trees or rolling down the mountain. nowadays, tamil movies or indian movies have changed. the stories and screen play now are more advanced and realistic. not like 70s or 80s where one guy can beat up 20 strong men and escape strings of bullet shots without any injuries. haha. as a whole, the movie was great even though i dun agree in some of the parts. by the way, the condition of the cinema was bad. really very bad. sigh.... cannot watch a good movie at that kind of place anymore...

after the movie, we headed straight back home. haha. our group consisted of 4 guys n a girl, the girl being the only PR. well, being a PR, you can clear the checkpoint earlier and faster. But yesterday, we all cleared the checkpoint and were waiting so long for the girl to clear hers. sigh... was it the queue problem or girls are always late?? haha. no offence.

then we took the mrt from kranji. we planned to take our dinner before going back home. so we decided to stop at bukit batok mrt station and go to the west mall. but, since all the guys were standing and the girl was sitting, we, guys, planned to get down at the previous station and wanted to look at her expression being stucked in the train while we were outside. well, the girl is new to mrt stations and we din tell her bout the dinner plan. So, we got down at bukit gombak station and looked at her to see what's her expression. unfortunately, she was looking up to the maps. sigh... we missed her expression. then we called her and told her to wait at the next station while we take the next train there. haha. feel bad bullying her. anyways, she din take it hardly. sorry, girl.

We enjoyed ourselves very much. at night the girl shifted to eusoff hall. so we, guys again, helped her to move her stuffs. haha. we had some great time together. cool. u know, sometimes we need to enjoy and to relax. it's really refreshing..... hope to have this kind of outings really soon......

Family bonding....

during vacation, there's one definite place all of us wanna go: hometown, back home. no matter where we travel, at least for me, home is still the best place to be in. everytime i go back home, i will want to be in my house. I dun really like to go out once i'm in my house. the 'aura' of belonging is there. the living room, the bedroom, the tv, computer, dining table, kitchen and even toilets. i just wanna be there. furthermore, with your family members around. it just cannot be better.

my family consists of 4 angels and me. my dad, mum, brother n sister. i admire one main thing in my dad and my bro. no matter what happens, no matter how the situations are, they can really solve them. they have the ability to overcome problems. as for my mum and sis, they are so caring. my mum's support to my dad has brought us where we r now. u know, beside every successful man, there's a woman. in my dad's case, it's my mum. my family; we face problems together. we enjoy together. something like we laugh and cry together. this is where our bonds between each other became very strong. solid strong. my family has not gathered in complete(as in all of us) in my house for almost 3 years now. the last time i was with my family was when we sent my sis back to Ukraine. i spent only few hours with my family and i feel our bonds are getting stronger. the courage to live and to face anything actually comes first from our family itself. U have a great reason to go back. to be with your family. u will not wanna commit anything which can affect that bonding. hope this bonding among us will always be stronger and stronger.

However, i think some of us, we dun appreciate our family. if u can see, some of them dun even talk to their siblings. no idea y it can go till that extent. it depends on the characteristics. but trust me, family members are the ones who can understand us well. they can really understand us if they were given a chance. people tend to regret only after losing something. appreciate while u r having now. there are so many people craving for family love and if u dun appreciate it while having it now, there must be something wrong somewhere. love starts from the family. love your family. lets make the world a better place to live in....

helping.... or being used!!!

when someone needs help, we should give a hand to them no matter who they are. this is one of the basic humanity values. Coz when someone needs help, he/she really expecting someone to help him/her. and if we can, we should help them. however, if we are not in the position to help, we should straight away tell the person that we are not able to help.

However, we must make sure that we are not being used by others. for an instance, a person can be the sweetest thing on earth when he/she needs something from you. he/she even asks about your grandfather. but when he/she doesn't need you, he/she cares nothing about u! what kind of species are those people. i always believe that when we ask for help and help is given to make our lives better, we should as well help others who might need help. and never forget the one who helped you coz without the person, you would have ended up in some bad place u can't even imagine.

i have come across some people who never help the person who helped them. worse still if the person needs the same help he/she has given to them. now, doesn't that sound ridiculous. come on..... everyone needs help. and when help is given, please don't forget the person and his/her contribution. appreciate them. maybe both of you can become real friends......

sunshine.....

for the past few years, i've been going thru' a dark passage where i had no idea where was i, what was i doing, etc. i was in deep loneliness and emptiness.... till i found my new sunshine few weeks ago. i have frens who'll share anything and who'll be there for me for everything. but no one understands my feelings.... no one to share my thoughts n problems.... i dun like to share, sorry to say.... i was really in dark....

till i met my sunshine. my life turned into better. trust me, i could really see the shine in the dark. it just brought me to the light. now, i see hope in my life. i used to carry on with my life, trying to think positive and be happy. well, looking at my sunshine, i knew that something really positive is happening to my life. this is happening when i needed it the most. thank you very much. actually, i dun expect anything else from the sunshine as the sunshine has already brighten up my life. i think it's time for me to take care of the sunshine....... thank you from the bottom of my heart. u were there when i needed someone the most.....

kl trip continues.....

well, the person came online but asked me to continue bloggin or she won't be talking to me. girls are always complex creatures.... can't really understand them. but it's ok. it's quite fun too.

where did i stop in my previous blog. oh, ya. said good bye to my sis. my dad was sad coz she's kind of his favourite child. haha. of course. anyone would like my sister. haha. she's wonderful...

i was so so so sleepy as i slept for only 12 hours for the past 4 days. my dad was scolding me coz i din take care of myself and put down weight. haiya.... nvm... i'll put on weight before deepavali and i'll show him. i'll start working out tomorrow.... i was just busy doing what i enjoy the most, dad. red cross work. no one seems to understand y am i too into red cross. it's ok. one day you will.

the next day, i was supposed to take the morning bus. but my cousin sis said she's coming to c me. have to wait for her coz i haven met her for about a year too. i love my sisters. so i decided to stay back to meet her. i went to the train station to pick her up. it was a great trip. i had maximum fun. for the first time in few years, all five of us, my family, gathered. it was really touching. how i wish to describe the feelings too.

i reached my room just now at about 10pm. and now, since i've finished blogging, hope my fren will talk to me...... :)

2 days with family......

there's one great place for us to spend our time and it will always be the way it is now. that's family. i went all the way to KL to say good bye to my sis. she flying to enroll in her 5th year in Ukraine. even though i was only with her for few hours deducting the times she was with her friends in the airport, KLIA, it was really great. i miss her. can't wait till next year to c her. and u know what, my brother is getting MARRIED next year. omg, can't believe it. i know my brother well. haha. he's getting married next year. time sometimes flies even faster than concorde. all da best to him. my sis-in-law is a good person too. he's lucky as i'm still in the quest of searching one. haha.

i spent about 5 hours to reach kl from jb. i dun like KL. ganja traffic. traffic polices are just eating nasi lemak. i walk even faster than the traffic. as a prove, i walked for a kilometre to meet my bro. if not, i think i would have spent another hour for that ganja one km. kl is getting worse. nvm....

when i went back to my aunt's house at Padang Jawa, my family was already prepared to leave to KLIA. the flight was at 10.30pm, and my dad asked everyone to get ready by 6pm. thats my dad. brutally punctual. haha. i'm meeting my aunt after almost a year. she's more like a mum to me.

in KLIA, there was a big crowd. now, i realize y changi airport can make money when KLIA is losing. the customer service n efficiency are not there in KLIA. the queue was very long and the time taken to clear each luggage was long. they are losing money every second by doing that. sigh... KLIA can never match Changi airport if this is how the services are. back to my sis, i felt so hard to say good bye to her. haha. well, but i'm used to it. nvm. she'll be back next year for my bro's wedding. haha.

just came back and i'm blogging while waiting my fren to take her shower. she asked me to blog while she's taking her bath. to play safe, i wont say who the person is..... haha. dun get jealous...
and now, the person is back. i'll continue blogging some other day! haha....