finished my final project and submitted today... feel so relieved. but, still got 4 cas next week. still have to carry on with my hard work till the end of my final exams.... man, last sem looks like the busiest ever when i wanted a memorable one. maybe it is memorable in one way or another...
i came across a friend's problem back at home. lets call the person S. S has crush on a fren of his/hers. Lets call that person W. So S has crush on W, in short. and S has another fren who he/she knows for quite sometime. Call the person G. S and G are close frens (and only close frens) and S has crush on W. G and W are close friends as well. Since they are close, S is a bit jealous with G. Though they are frens for quite a long time, because of jealousy, they often have problems with each other. S expects G to stay away from G. And this is what i dun agree. Why should G?
If u like a person, (only one way, i mean), u dun have the rights to control who talks or close to the person u like. what made u think that u can control? loving a person means thinking about the person and understanding the person. not expecting things around the person to be the way u want. thats selfish. and selfish isn't love!!!
Now, S knows that there is no chance to win W. so S took a step back and stopped talking to W. Since G is a fren of W, S is not talking to G too. so means, S has been looking G as W's fren after all. not S's own friend. this is what happens when one wants to bring relationship into friendships......
Wednesday, March 28, 2007
Monday, March 12, 2007
Jokes.....
everyone likes jokes. who doesn't like to smile and laugh? jokes are something which can brighten up one's day. therefore, a person who jokes around is important to the group. or the group will be dull.
however, there's a limit for it. actually, there's a limit for everything. jokes are meant to make others happy. not to offend anyone. if u think u can only joke by hurting others, then please don't joke. though there's no one person who can joke all the time without offending at least a person but we have to control ourselves. if someone feels offended while we are joking, we have to stop right away and apologize. thats the way.
some even look down on others while joking. trying to be funny by saying something sarcastic. they'll claim that they are joking at the end. but in my opinion, those are bad jokes. if u still think its a joke for u, then go some places without people and talk and laugh for all you care.
it's always a good thing to make someone smile but not by hurting anyone. look around. if someone is being offended, please stop. joking and being sarcastic are two different things. not everyone will think like u. so try to think generally while joking. coz it involves others as well. you dun wanna be lonely after that.
however, there's a limit for it. actually, there's a limit for everything. jokes are meant to make others happy. not to offend anyone. if u think u can only joke by hurting others, then please don't joke. though there's no one person who can joke all the time without offending at least a person but we have to control ourselves. if someone feels offended while we are joking, we have to stop right away and apologize. thats the way.
some even look down on others while joking. trying to be funny by saying something sarcastic. they'll claim that they are joking at the end. but in my opinion, those are bad jokes. if u still think its a joke for u, then go some places without people and talk and laugh for all you care.
it's always a good thing to make someone smile but not by hurting anyone. look around. if someone is being offended, please stop. joking and being sarcastic are two different things. not everyone will think like u. so try to think generally while joking. coz it involves others as well. you dun wanna be lonely after that.
Sunday, March 11, 2007
Be a man.... of your words!!!
when a person promises something and did not deliver at the end, what would we think of the person? if the person really put in a lot of effort but just that he din have the luck to get it done, then he can be forgiven and be trusted for the next time. but if he din take it seriously and slack all the time and we somehow predicted what would happen, then he doesn't worth our trust anymore.
i have met a lot of people who kept and still keeping their promises. but i have also met a few who said something but never lived up to it. it's like 'cakap tak serupa bikin' in Malay. u can see him saying 'i'll never do this',' i'll never do that', 'that is just not me' and some other crap but ending up doing everything. sometimes its just funny. worse still when they advice someone else not to do what they are doing. haha. just wanna say something here. if u wanna advice a person not to do something, first of all, you must not be doing it! what's the point of telling people it's bad when u urself keep doing it. no one will trust u. something like if Osama comes out and says terrorism is bad, who'll will trust him. if he admits his mistakes and return to the right path (which will never happen), then that's another story. but when he's the world's most wanted man for terrorism and if he says shooting is bad, that just ain't right.
do not say anything nor promise anything if u r unable to deliver. trust is something very hard to regain once u lose it. its very easy to say i'm a man of my words, but being it is not as easy as saying it.
i have met a lot of people who kept and still keeping their promises. but i have also met a few who said something but never lived up to it. it's like 'cakap tak serupa bikin' in Malay. u can see him saying 'i'll never do this',' i'll never do that', 'that is just not me' and some other crap but ending up doing everything. sometimes its just funny. worse still when they advice someone else not to do what they are doing. haha. just wanna say something here. if u wanna advice a person not to do something, first of all, you must not be doing it! what's the point of telling people it's bad when u urself keep doing it. no one will trust u. something like if Osama comes out and says terrorism is bad, who'll will trust him. if he admits his mistakes and return to the right path (which will never happen), then that's another story. but when he's the world's most wanted man for terrorism and if he says shooting is bad, that just ain't right.
do not say anything nor promise anything if u r unable to deliver. trust is something very hard to regain once u lose it. its very easy to say i'm a man of my words, but being it is not as easy as saying it.
Thursday, March 08, 2007
Anger and the way to 'play' with it!
Whenever we are angry, its good for us to express the anger. coz if we suppress it and keep it inside us, one day, it'll turn us into a beast. we all know this but the problem lies with people who cannot control their anger....
just take a simple example. this guy is frustrated with his teammates in a game. he got pissed off with them and walked away. well, it's normal. but if he shows his frustration to another fren who he meets on the way back, he's an a**hole. if you are angry with something, let it go to that particular something. if you are angry with ur books, y r u kicking the chair? this will only make u more lonely. and trust me, when u need someone and there's no one for ya to turn to, u'll suffer. to avoid that, it's always better to control ur anger. anger, an alphabet short of danger, will accumulate only when u keep it. forget about it. everyone makes mistakes. forgive and forget. if you keep blaming and finding faults, u'll be always angry.
meditation seems to be the best way to stay happy and calm. dun be angry on anything which don't worth even ur thoughts. coz no one like to be angry or to be with someone who's angry. talking to a fren will help as well. u will not only feel better after talking but the relationship with your fren will become stronger. u'll find a fren in the person as well. so smile and stay cool.
just take a simple example. this guy is frustrated with his teammates in a game. he got pissed off with them and walked away. well, it's normal. but if he shows his frustration to another fren who he meets on the way back, he's an a**hole. if you are angry with something, let it go to that particular something. if you are angry with ur books, y r u kicking the chair? this will only make u more lonely. and trust me, when u need someone and there's no one for ya to turn to, u'll suffer. to avoid that, it's always better to control ur anger. anger, an alphabet short of danger, will accumulate only when u keep it. forget about it. everyone makes mistakes. forgive and forget. if you keep blaming and finding faults, u'll be always angry.
meditation seems to be the best way to stay happy and calm. dun be angry on anything which don't worth even ur thoughts. coz no one like to be angry or to be with someone who's angry. talking to a fren will help as well. u will not only feel better after talking but the relationship with your fren will become stronger. u'll find a fren in the person as well. so smile and stay cool.
Wednesday, March 07, 2007
back stabbers..... don't u learn????
It has been slightly over a month since the last time i blogged. well, in this one month, a lot of things have happened. Pretty busy and will be busy till the end of the semester and my undergrad studies. Man, i'm graduating soon. cool.
In this one month, i went thru a lot. i guess, when people are desperate, they'll start to show their ugly side. and trust me, its really ugly. i've only heard bout back stabbers last time but only now i'm experiencing the back stabbing. it was bad but it wont affect me anymore. we shud never let those back stabbing affect us. i nearly lost my grade; it was that bad. the back stabbers do not worth even our thoughts. they are trash. i'm that hurt, actually. maybe, when they see a short cut to run away from problems, they don't see who's beside them. they just push them away so that they can take the pathetic short cut so that they will stay 'good'.
but now, things are getting better. though not yet reaching the 'normal' state, it's getting better. a good lesson to learn. for those outside there, becareful of these parasites. we can't stop them from talking and creating stories but just dun bother them. as long as u have frens who u can rely on, nothing can 'shake' u.
In this one month, i went thru a lot. i guess, when people are desperate, they'll start to show their ugly side. and trust me, its really ugly. i've only heard bout back stabbers last time but only now i'm experiencing the back stabbing. it was bad but it wont affect me anymore. we shud never let those back stabbing affect us. i nearly lost my grade; it was that bad. the back stabbers do not worth even our thoughts. they are trash. i'm that hurt, actually. maybe, when they see a short cut to run away from problems, they don't see who's beside them. they just push them away so that they can take the pathetic short cut so that they will stay 'good'.
but now, things are getting better. though not yet reaching the 'normal' state, it's getting better. a good lesson to learn. for those outside there, becareful of these parasites. we can't stop them from talking and creating stories but just dun bother them. as long as u have frens who u can rely on, nothing can 'shake' u.
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