Friendship or Relationship.... What kind of 'ship' is it actually!!!!

Friendship is the best relationship one can get in his/her life! without friends, one's life will be doomed. i think i've said this before. but what i dun understand is the way people look at the friendship.

when a girl is close to a guy, that doesn't mean that they r gonna be together. this is the understanding between the guy and the girl. Both the parties must understand that they r just friends. when the understanding is there, no one can say anything or none can break them up. thats what i call plutonic friendship. i do understand this coz i have lots of plutonic frens. but what i dun understand is, when one party is looking more than a fren; and its quite obvious that he/she wants more than just frens, the other partner is still very close to him/her. If the partner wants to form a relationship, then the partner can be close and bring the friendship to the next level. but if the partner doesnt want anything but just friendship, y is the partner still being very close to him/her. If he/she enjoys the partner's company, y not be together. if not, distance has to be maintained.

it really doesn't make sense when one being very close with his/her partner, knowing that the partner wants more than a friendship, still goes on very closely with the partner, and finally says that its only friendship. do u know how the partner will feel???? really dun understand. i will always wanna appreciate friends around me and those who have feelings on me, i'll try my very best to give a chance. i was not like this last time, but i learnt and changed. if i know one of my friends wants more than just a friendship from me, if i'm not interested, i'll try to make her understand in a nice way. hurting is inevitable, but thats the best thing to do. minimizing the hurt. i won't be closer (as in giving her hints that i want something also) after that, using her, and then saying she's just a fren of mine. if i were to do it, i'm a jackass who don't appreciate friendship. Frens are always there for us. they r frens. and of we 'betray' or hurt them, we aren't one anymore....